What do you feel when it seems like you’re being taken for granted? Do you get angry? Sad? Does there come a time when you just say, “Enough, I’m tired of being told ‘no, sorry, I have better things to do?'”
How do you deal with friends who say, “Well, yeah, I might be able to make it…but I do have twenty other really important things to do that day, so I’ll let you know?” How do you make plans with people like that? How do you react when a friend says, “Yep, sounds good, okay, let’s do it!” and then calls and waffles?
For how long do you just suck it up?
Or do you finally just stop making plans or counting on them for much?
Enquiring minds want to know! Comment, please, and you could be a character in my next book – but I can’t promise not to kill you off!
I’ll comment, but can I get back to you later? (And never show?) Kidding! I know exactly how you feel. Drives me up the wall if someone pulls one of those on me. Once is understandable, if something unexpected arises, but not twice. And certainly not more than twice. After that it’s adios in my book because that person obviously doesn’t consider me valuable enough to take the time to be slightly reliable. That’s not a friend.
Everyone’s been there, I think.
People come and go in your life, make it on your terms, I say.
When a person proves by their excuses and cancellations or the “I have twenty really important things…” (which simply let’s me know I am on a different level of friendship then they are) I simply stop calling or asking to include them. We are adults, after all, right?
People come into your life and stay or go, as life does what life does … move forward without regard to the past, looking only into the future.
People prove themselves reliable or not … I just take the message and move on.
And there you have it!
I’m almost done with Reduced! I vowed to finish it today … last weeks tornado and hole in the house delayed me! Blast mother nature! Abby’s talking to Henry … 🙂
You two are certainly taking a risk, possibly entering my second novel and being killed….
Anyway, thank you for the comments. And you’re both absolutely correct, in fact, I’ve often told doormats they should grow a spine. Sometimes outside perspective is needed, though.
The best thing to do with friends like these is to write a book about them, then delete the source material.
Love this. Very succinct.